Re: DSM: playing school rules

Melissa Tyson (
Tue, 30 Jan 2001 13:25:03 -0000

There's always a choice.

>From: "Anna Babina" <>
>there is one very important thing in what you described.
>Your daughter accepted the school rules as a game. She didn't think it was
>real life. She didn't take it seriously. It's great
>There are many kids who accept public school as the part of their world, as
>inevitable and obligatuary part of their lives. That's the lie of the
>public school supported by teachers, parents and the state. It's kind of
>madness which children catch from adults.
>Your child understands that she has a choice. It's the best thing.
>-----Исходное сообщение-----
>От: Alan Klein <>
>Дата: 23 января 2001 г. 7:36
>Тема: Re: DSM: dancing
> Anne, et al,
> My youngest went to Highland as a preschooler (the child of staff
>members). After we moved to Maryland, she went to hand-picked local private
>schools. Hand-picked for being as close as we could get to democratic
>schooling. At sixth grade age, she decided to go to the local public
>school. The school she had been at was too small for her highly extraverted
>soul. In addition, her own sense of wanting to fit in led her to want to
>try the public school.
> She is now a freshman in the local public high school and, while I can't
>say she has thought all that highly of her recent schooling experience, she
>has excelled at it. She has managed straight A's all the way through. She
>does this with absolutely no rewards from us, no mandates to complete
>homework before television/computer, and with the awareness that we would
>have preferred that she stay in her old school...the one we had picked for
>her. She does this with a minimum of effort, fuss, or bother. She works
>hard when she has to (to get the results she wants) and plays the system
>like a master...tracking her grades and working the extra credit game to
>bring that 89% up to an 89.5%, which rounds to an A (for example).
> I don't know if this is the type of story you were looking for, but it's
>what your question provoked in me!
> ~Alan
> Anne asked:
> I would like to invite stories in this vein from DSM participants, I'm
>sure the stories are out there. They would help people like Susan and me a
>great deal. Stories about "Sudbury" parents with offspring in a mainstream
>coercive school (by the choice of the kid, not due to the circumstance of
>no "free school" being available).
> You see, how do I know, how does any "newby" know, that Sudbury kids
>aren't being coerced into behaving as Sudbury kids should?
> Ever sceptically,

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