Avenfeliz1@aol.com
Tue, 12 Dec 2000 21:51:08 EST
In a message dated 12/12/00 7:30:43 PM Eastern Standard Time,
Dannyasher@aol.com writes:
> So it made me sad to read your post because I felt that your expectations
> from the majority are unrealistic and hence unfullfilable. Is it possible
> for you to live in a place that both your and your husbands backgrounds
are
> both represented?
Hanna,
Finally someone who can answer my post without biting my head off. Thank you
for your respect. I asked if there is a place for people like me(simply
meaning SW minorities) in the Sud model, and received a back-lash of fear,
defensiveness, and denial. I was initially discouraged, being that most of
those respones came from people who have lived the model for quite awhile. I
have answered my own question, however. Absolutely. I believe the model has
such a good foundation (freedom and respect for children), that it transcends
most barriers. The barrier of individual fears still flourishes, but that
exists everywhere.
The fact is, I have no expectaions from the majority. I have few expectations
from anyone, in fact. But I live my life on a more personal level. I have
family and friends from many different cultures and nationalities and don't
limit myself to certain groups of people. And for the most part, I fit in
quite well. And sometimes I discover it's not what others are doing to
exclude me, it's what I'm doing to exclude myself. That won't work in the
Sud model. It won't work anywhere.
The reason I opened up this can of worms is that I have been considering
starting a school on the Bobaquivari Reservation. The nation refuses to even
consider using J.C., however, and understadably so. But they grasp the
freedom and respect idea, and understadably so. So the question hit me, "Is
there a place for people like me in the Sud model"? It wasn't a minority
whining about "the white man keeping me down" (not possible anyway), like
some may have assumed. It was an honest question needing an honest answer.
And even though I have "my" answer, the Bobaquivari have their's. Like many,
they're skeptical. But I'm not. If it never works for them, it still works
for me and my family.
Thank you for your kindness. It is much appreciated.:)
Kathleen
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