Joe Jackson (email@example.com)
Sun, 19 Nov 2000 22:27:05 -0500
> Well, since you asked, aside from the glaring evidence (to me)
> that the list
> is formulated to characterize parents seeking better educational
> opportunities for their children as dumb, it's also pieced together in a
> mean spirited way. Maybe that's Mimsy's style, personally, I
> tend to go for
> the flippant, sarcastic, cheap shots. The list seemed general,
> vague and not
> attributed to anyone or with any evidence to support its criticisms.
> Regardless, I think you can catch more flies with honey then vinegar, at
> least where the parents are concerned.
Reeny, I think anyone who has experience with an operating Sudbury model
school wouldn't have a problem with the list, as the items do a pretty
complete job of describing the various types of parents we see within our
I don't really understand the criticism, I don't understand why you think
it's mean-spirited or condescending to parents. I, for instance, proudly
fit in item #2.
I'm sorry, I just read it again, and the only mean-spirited-ness and sarcasm
I see on this page is yours, Reeny (not that I have a problem with sarcasm -
my favorite author, Mr. William S., is one of the most sarcastic
m_____f_____s of all time).
If any of the items speak to the ignorance, apathy, or agenda of some
parents, it's only because that's what we sometimes see at the schools, and
I don't know why you would be offended just because all parents in our
schools don't "get it" right away or ever.
please note my new email address:
Kids rule at Fairhaven School
> > From: "Alan Klein" <Alan@klein.net>
> > Reply-To: firstname.lastname@example.org
> > Date: Sat, 18 Nov 2000 16:04:58 -0500
> > To: <email@example.com>
> > Subject: Re: DSM: public school prisons (sharing the SVS model, etc.)
> > Reeny,
> > I am curious as to what has you regard the list as condescending.
> > ~Alan Klein
> > ----- Original Message -----
> > From: <firstname.lastname@example.org>
> >>> From a parents perspective, I think this list is
> condescending. Wish we
> >> could be as enlightened as you all.
> >>> Msadofsky@aol.com wrote:
> >>>> A short and incomplete list of reasons parents might have to send a
> > child to
> >>>> a sudbury school
> >>>> (1) They agree with what they think the philosophy is.
> This is often
> >>>> NOT what the philosophy is but, especially in the beginning of the
> > kid's
> >>>> enrollment, they haven't yet figured that out.
> >>>> (2) They agree with the philosophy and actually want their
> children to
> >>>> grow up feeling free, empowered, in charge, and darn smart.
> >>>> (3) They find the sudbury school to be the least of many evils; they
> >>>> wish there were just a little curriculum, but there isn't, so they
> > either
> >>>> work to change it, openly or covertly, or they impose the
> curriculum at
> > home
> >>>> just to be sure their kids are exposed to everything, in the
> detail the
> >>>> parents think is necessary, that the parents think every
> child must be
> >>>> exposed to.
> >>>> (4) It is the only private school they can afford except
> for parochial
> >>>> schools and none of the parochial schools suit their fancy.
> >>>> (5) They find the sudbury school to be the least of many evils in
> > their
> >>>> area.
> >>>> (6) They feel the kids will be safe, if uneducated, in a sudbury
> > school.
> >>>> (7) Their kids are having their spirits mutilated in one way or
> > another
> >>>> -- perhaps dumbed down; perhaps something else -- in some
> other type of
> >>>> schooling, and they are desparate to get the kids into something that
> > may
> >>>> help rebuild self-esteem. These parents can actually let that happen
> > to
> >>>> their child(ren) or not; they can manage to subvert the child's real
> >>>> independence of thought and so it will not happen if they really try
> > hard.
> >>>> (8) Their kids refuse to attend school in a "normal"
> school, and they
> >>>> give up and sign the papers so they can go to a school that they will
> > attend.
> >>>> Results are mixed in these situations.
> >>>> I know there are others, but this is a starter list.
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